Choose A Relationship That Gives You Freedom to Fly!
"I’ve tried to recognize my wife’s individuality, her personality, her desires, her background, her ambitions. Let her fly. Yes, let her fly! Let her develop her own talents. Let her do things her way. Get out of her way, and marvel at what she does."
Gordon B. Hinckley
Over the weekend, I caught up with an old high school friend for lunch, and we chatted about everything, including love and relationships. It has been reported that 92% of lunch dates with girls from ages 21 to 45 are arranged to converse in length about love and relationships. For real... okay I'm lying, but I wouldn't be surprised if it's true! Almost every breakfast, lunch or dinner date that I have with a girl friend will include a discussion about romantic relationships, they consume a lot of our time. And, more often than not, these conversations are usually complaints about the challenges and hardships we face in relationships. Although we covered these hard bits, a good part of this conversation was refreshingly different to many others I've had...
"If you choose to be in a relationship, make it a good one." Anon
Instead of the usual whines, moans and grievances, my friend shared observations and outlooks that were more positively impactful about romantic relationships; and they sparked some thoughts in my mind. I can't relate what she shared with me because it is confidential, but what it brought to mind is that relationships are meant to be enjoyed, not endured, and that the type of relationship you choose to be in is a reflection of your self worth.
In this day and age we are usually not forced into relationships, we choose them, and we should choose well. So, if you are in a romantic relationship, or have a desire to be in one, make sure to be in one that will make you feel free to fly and flourish! Not to say that your relationship must be flawless, of course there will be hurdles when two individuals share time and space, but those can contribute to your individual and collective growth. It is so beautiful and inspiring to see two people in awe of one other, living their best lives, learning from their mistakes, adding value to each other's lives, and being supportive of each others goals and dreams. These are the fruits of a good relationship, and what we should all desire for ourselves. You deserve love and happiness, don't sell yourself short!